COMPANIONSHIP

High and Dry?

His partner had tried calling severally but he refused to take the call. He was in his 'monkish'. period. He was so dry that he found it difficult to relate with people that period, including the ones he loved so much. Yet he was High. He knew he needed companionship; the last time, she had said she needed a hug. He could use a hug too. He needed to talk to someone,

and she needed her loved one around...

She had been away for 3 years and she promised to be faithful. He also had promised to be faithful, but at that point, he was losing it. He was now so angry because she had been away for too long; the loneliness was becoming unbearable. The anger of staying faithful while not seeing his partner around was tearing him apart. He could hardly control himself now whenever he saw cleavages of the female folk, not because he was the promiscuous kind, but because at this point of his dryness, his needs struggled to overcome his self control. He was high not because he wanted sex but because he needed care. The temptation to look through pornographic materials online was becoming overbearing as well. Worse still, he still had a lot of work to do.

Unfortunately, unable to understand the feeling completely, she sometimes chose to touch herself so as to ease the tension, in the hope that she would feel better and less high. But why does (s)he get so dry often, not wanting to speak to anyone and getting irritated over little things? Was it because (s)he needed more attention, or because he needed more love..?

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Lest I forget, when I say "High and Dry" I don't mean stranded on the beach ooo. The scenario above is exactly what I mean by high and dry.

This is really a very difficult situation, and couples who have to deal with long distance relationships understand the frustration. But we don't have to approach the issue from a purely human perspective. Sex with another can never replace true love. It only makes the dryness much worse after the initial pleasure. How would you deal with the guilt afterwards if you choose just that one time to be unfaithful? And there's always the possibility that your partner might eventually get to know. See? There has to be a better way of handling the dryness and hyness, right?

But you know, here is the good news:

Have you tried music? There is something music does to the body, mind and soul. Have you ever noticed that whenever you are angry and you play or hear your favourite song or artist singing, you feel a lot better?

This is exactly what music will do to you when you feel so dry or high or high and dry. It's even a lot better when its spiritual music. So, whenever you feel high and dry, instead of having erotic depictions, play your favourite "Boys2men" or "Celine Dion". And if you're a Church girl like me, Frank Edwards, Cobhams and Nathaniel Bassey are great choices!

I hope you feel just cool, calm, and collected afterwards!

© Chiyem Boiye, 2017.