Our “perfection” lies in the happiness while doing something meaningful to our true selves
Is it important to be the fastest driver, the best gymnast, the funniest comedian, the office “go to person”? How important is to be an excellent numerical typist if that’s not what makes us happy? Are there other attributes and skills that make you the most desirable person to be around? Do you make people happy about themselves Do you show them available possibilities, connect them to others, to their own potential, to the things that make them truly satisfied with even one moment in their life?
Do the things that are natural to you, that feel joyful and effortless to perform. Leave the rest to the people who feel joy in doing those other things, as you’ll always compete with their true selves, with their joy that makes them excel so easily.“Perfection” and excellence in any area is relevant to what is needed and where our natural skills and talents are. It’s through this excitement in doing something that we consequently become excellent, as there’s no feeling of (hard) work, but eagerness to explore, to find out more, to invent, create, connect with people and ideas, and it never ends.
If you feel that you need to improve a skill or learn a new one, and it feels easy and makes you happy while doing it — do it! Don’t wait — do it now! Also don’t expect to become excellent overnight (definitely not “perfect” — it’s an imaginary term). You can’t be excellent in everything. That’s why we differ from each other, making this life so much more interesting. If everyone were a great singer or musician, we probably wouldn’t attend concerts to enjoy anyone’s performance; singing with the entire audience or “visiting” in our mind the beautiful world of the performers through the music.
Even if you could gain excellence in one or more areas, what would be the true cost?
Although we influence each other, you should try to be true to yourself by remembering the time before it all became so “difficult”, joyless and a race to earn more, pay bills, buy more, get a pay rise, pay bills …
Do you remember how it felt to be a child? Remember how it felt good to simply awake, being happy about another day full of opportunities, unknown magic moments, uncertain of what could happen, being eager to find out, explore, learn by playing? Do you remember the happiness about even a simplest holiday or picnic with your family? Would you feel like that now before an expensive holiday? Probably not. Even a road trip used to bring us much more excitement. We forget and that’s the worst obstacle to our happiness, our excelling in life. Remember and become again excited about every little trip, walk in a park, new buildings in your neighbourhood, new season’s flowers planted at a roundabout or a median island.
Often we try our best to be positive, then a cynical person enters our environment. It is difficult to disregard all negative comments, articles and opinions (or “realistic” as they would state — and they believe it to be true), but we can limit our exposure to the media and news. I don’t have to know ALL the deaths that occurred EVERYWHERE in the world, even all the traffic accidents within my country, all the homicides and suicides in my city, all the bills my neighbour is struggling to pay. The more we know, the more we would feel there’s no point in living.
We know we would die eventually, so how is it relevant that we know particular stories of every death out of billions of people currently being alive. We also know that many people struggle with issues — financial, health, relationships, violence … So let’s really be realistic and face the fact that we can’t do anything about the people around the world dying, struggling, crying, … What realistically could we do? A small gesture could change someone’s life and that’s all we can hope to achieve.
Although we can limit the amount and nature of the information coming through media, avoiding negativity in our physical environment is more difficult. When we meet someone who keeps pointing out all the negative facts, systemic differentiation of people to rich and poor, to influential individuals and powerless masses, to homelessness and empty investment apartments - is it helpful or in any way constructive to only focus on those things? If I find myself in a situation like this, I try to persuade the person that there are positive things to look forward to, to enjoy in life and be grateful for them.
Sometimes I feel that the person may be in too deep, that a 10–15 minute conversation is not enough. I remember once feeling so exhausted that my heart rate increased, I felt like drowning in that negative energy, almost as being “attacked” by those opinions, as though “all the world’s injustice was my fault”. I felt as being a defendant because I didn’t agree that everything was doomed. So I excused myself and left the room to talk to other people and try to forget the energy being projected.
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